Tip 2: Make an assessment of what is needed by your loved one. Observe. Ask questions. Don’t assume just because you know your relative or friend very well that you actually know what is needed to make his or her life easier and happier. Also, even if you are a take charge person, try to throttle back a bit and let your loved one take the lead in the discussion if at all possible. (There are certain medical conditions that makes this impossible.) Remember your loved one has been independent for a long time. Suddenly turning over the reins to another no matter how dear is difficult. Ease into the changes before all of you if at all possible. Family arguments help no one for the most part and ugly words are hard to forget and impossible to take back.
Tip 1: Care Giving is one of the most demanding and rewarding tasks I have ever undertaken. I learned early on that to be an effective care giver, I had to take care of myself as well as those in my charge. Proper nutrition and rest are a must. AND Mental Down Time. You may not be able to give yourself an hour or so each day to simply sit and relax but try. Mental recharging is as important as physical recharging. If you get sick or too worn out to continue, who will take your place? Take care of yourself so that you can take care of others.